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trugasCA
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Message Posted: Jan 6, 2013 8:55:12 PM

What does it mean? Do you travel? Are you quietly sitting home?
Are you doing all the things you had no time to do when working?
Are you enjoying your retirement?
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Jemac
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Message Posted: Apr 1, 2015 9:31:29 PM

Sneakers, two load of dishes in one day? Do you have open house for feeding the neighbors also?

BYW, my 4 cats said they received a phone call from Houston... It was bouncing around the area codes 281, 346, 713, and 832 so they couldn't pinpoint the real number. Apparently from someone very devious in technology.

According to them, it was from a police cat and it was a very interesting conversation. They wouldn't tell me what it was all about but someone's in trouble.

Regarding dishwashers, washers and dryers ...the girls ask me how to run them when we get a new one in.
Sneakers55
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Message Posted: Apr 1, 2015 8:22:51 PM

AJ and the BFF went out and bought a mess of food in the early afternoon.

When they got back, AJ started cooking and the BFF ran a load of dishes.

The BFF talked me into running a load of dishes. I'm thinking I'll do it between 8:00 and 9:00 as I'm sitting down and having a Diet Coke with Splenda right now.
Sneakers55
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Message Posted: Apr 1, 2015 2:03:42 PM

On Apr 1, 2015 11:44:06 AM, Jemac wrote:

>Sneakers, do you know if that cat is an undercover police cat?

Given the success of Acoustic Kitty, I don't think it's an undercover police cat!
Sneakers55
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Message Posted: Apr 1, 2015 1:59:41 PM

On Apr 1, 2015 8:18:45 AM, trugasCA wrote:

>Sneakers.I agree you need to learn to use the washer and dryer and looks like
>the dishwasher too, coz somebody is not keeping up their end of the agreement
>for free rent. You should know anyhoo.

I know how to use the dishwasher, I've loaded and run it several times.

The BFF absolutely detests washing dishes in any way, shape, or form. It's different on clothes, she runs the machines all hours of the day and night.

I'd suspect that I'm not much of an encouragement. Seems I spend all my time on the computer. The biggest mess in the house is around me. And at the rate I do unpacking, Obama may be out of the White House by the time I'm done!
BarbaraNolan
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Message Posted: Apr 1, 2015 1:38:33 PM

Answering your initial query. All of the above.

I have taken several road trips, the longest to attend my sister's wedding October 5, 2013. I left Oregon September 17th for Springfield, VA, and returned home November 14th. Many national parks and wildlife refuges on the way across our beautiful nation.

Often I'm sitting at home working on the downsizing project, researching places to go once I sell the family home, or catching up on television series I had no time to watch before retirement and children leaving home. West Wing, anyone?

i had no time to go to weekend music festivals so that's become one of my summer pleasures. So far the Moab Folk Festival has been my favorite.

I am loving my retirement.

Off to another adventure today, riding the bus to my doctor's appointment while my car is in for body repairs.



[Edited by: BarbaraNolan at 4/1/2015 1:40:44 PM EST]
Jemac
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Message Posted: Apr 1, 2015 12:44:06 PM

Thanks Targetmom. BTW, send some of those snowflakes my way. It would be interesting and the baby would love them.

Trugas, I wanna sit on the bench. It looks so nice in that setting.

Sneakers, do you know if that cat is an undercover police cat? Maybe so? Be careful!

[Edited by: Jemac at 4/1/2015 12:45:17 PM EST]
Targetsmom
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Message Posted: Apr 1, 2015 11:49:07 AM

Congrats on your weight loss Jemac ~

Trugas you are as busy as ever ! :))

Hi Sneakers and 2 manyfords ...

2Mnyfords ... meadow larks lived where I grew up , I certainty miss their song , such a pretty little bird.
Jemac
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Message Posted: Apr 1, 2015 10:29:47 AM

Got up at 9:15 am, did my daily weigh-in for the VA weight-loss program. (So far, about a 10 pound loss in 42 days.) Took my three tablets for the day, and now to get in my shower....Just took my shower.

Will be picking the 6 year old from school in afternoon, then the day is mine. Paid a few bills yesterday via computer and made sure the other bills are being taken care of. Almost all my bills are auto-paid through the computer but still a few that are manual as they are small.

Now to go out to the kitchen and eat something low in calories.

The neighbors are doing fine and the DIL is the one usually talking over the fence to them. I can't stand that long so I don't try. My back seems to be getting a bit better which is certainly a good thing.

trugasCA
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Message Posted: Apr 1, 2015 9:18:45 AM

Sneakers.I agree you need to learn to use the washer and dryer and looks like the dishwasher too, coz somebody is not keeping up their end of the agreement for free rent. You should know anyhoo.

Jemac, l don't have to invite the yeller. The bench is right in front of her place. She is giving tours to all passers by. I kept hearing my name, so l went over and reiterated that "l do not want you to tell anyone anything about what l have or have not done in this area" And "I did NOT plant that poppy anyway" So she said "OH l remembered what you said , just after l said you planted it and then l changed it to maybe l planted it". She lies too. I also said to her "you pop out of your place everytime you hear someone, you must be very lonely" HINT HINT and she said she just likes to be around people. I'm sure..so she has more people to borrow from.
We have one lady that is certified here, on prescribed drugs, and she walks and walks, but keeps her mouth shut. This one when one is conversing with someone, she interrupts and starts talking as soon as she gets out her door. Stops your conversation. Last time l just walked away and left her talking to the person l was having the conversation with. They talked quite a while. That lady still feels sorry for her, so she can have her and her constant borrowing.

I know the patience will end soon. We, three ladies and l, are going to Red Lobster again today. Not inviting anyone else. Then Saturday the Lunch Bunch is going to Mi Pueblo for mexican meal. I finally got a name as Fearless couldn't remember the name. I hear Fearless is due to renew her license in May and we think the odds are against her being able to pass the written test. We'll see. She drives so many people to shop and stuff. Don't know who they will all rely on if she doesn't pass the test.

Got my car cleaned inside and out. Saw dr about skin problems and have full body scan due in three months.
Sneakers55
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Message Posted: Apr 1, 2015 8:42:28 AM

We're pretty much having peace and quiet around here.

The police haven't been back for Tommy, the fugitive cat.

Got my monthly pension payment today. I was watching this one as this was the first pension payment that went to the new bank. Usually, payors want a voided check to set up a direct deposit but for this one I had to type the numbers in myself. I also updated my monthly IRA distribution to go to the new bank, but the IRA custodian wanted a voided check so they could read in the numbers electronically.

We need to run the dishwasher as the sink is full of dirty dishes.

I also have some laundry that needs doing. Usually, the BFF does my laundry but I figure I need to learn how to use the washer and dryer that I bought in November 2014!



[Edited by: Sneakers55 at 4/1/2015 8:45:57 AM EST]
Sneakers55
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Message Posted: Mar 31, 2015 11:43:36 AM

Nice tranquil day around here yesterday. Tommy is still here, guess the police have better things to do.

Yesterday's mail was unusually full of things that were worth looking at.

I got two letters from one of my banks. One said that the E-mail that my E-statements were ready were getting rejected. The other was a paper statement. The E-statement was filed away nicely on my computer several days ago. I had the same thing happen with my IRA custodian, in both cases I was mystified.

Got another credit card with a chip on it.

Got a letter from the county appraisal district with the assessed value of my house. One page giving the assessed value, two pages giving how to object to the assessed value.
Jemac
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Message Posted: Mar 31, 2015 10:42:20 AM

OK trugasca, I’ll take him as my grandson in-law or my granddaughter’s husband but don’t want him as close as my real grandson. We all consider him a PITA. A grandson is always a grandson but a GD’s husband is ‘there when he’s there’ but in a divorce, he’s gone. He’s a strange person (but then, I guess most of us are strange. I know all of you are, so I must be, also! LOL. Yes, they could make a movie with all of us in it.

I don't know what to call him? He's my son's son-in-law, so would he be my great son-in-law?

Your confusing me ...shall we both have a few mixed drinks or a couple glasses of wine?

Mind you, I'm fussy on my wine. Cheap but usually only blackberry wine. The rest are too yucky for me.

Your bench and area look very cozy and looks like a nice community spot. Shall we invite your 'yeller' neighbor over to sit with you?
trugasCA
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Message Posted: Mar 31, 2015 8:44:50 AM

You may have explained it all but l still don't get it. Your grand daugher's husband is NOT you grand son? He is your son-in-law?

Good thing you love them all and have plenty of room for them. Not my cup of tea, but sounds like it works for you. At least the cops aren't coming to your place or Adult Protective Services.
Our new bench

Already tried it out and it is nice, but we need more around the complex. This manager is concentrating on the pool area, added a BBQ yesterday there.
Jemac
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Message Posted: Mar 30, 2015 10:17:02 PM

I know I complain but the DIL complains even more. I don't do any of their dishes or cleaning up and it ends up the DIL doing all the extra work. I complain but it's the DIL that gets the brunt of the extra work.

The DIL and daughter go at it pretty much daily but the GD (daughter) and her husband (son in law, not grand son) are just slobs. The 7 year old is a 7 year old and has her messes for the DIL to take care if her mommy doesn't.

So, bottom line, the DIL is the wonder girl and keeps the place mostly clean.

The DIL also babysits the 8 month old and the 7 year old when she's not in school. The DIL is great.
Sneakers55
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Message Posted: Mar 30, 2015 5:16:23 PM

On Mar 30, 2015 7:12:03 AM. 2manyfords wrote:

>And Sneakers, who the hell is AJ's BFF's half brother?

It's just the BFF's half-brother.

>Is he living with you too?

We have enough excitement around here with just AJ and the BFF! (They're girlfriend and boyfriend.)

trugasCA
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Message Posted: Mar 30, 2015 9:06:46 AM

Jemac, since your daughter in law lives there too, l think the grand son thinks she is still his mom and takes care of him. Some never get away from Mom taking care of them.

Sneakers, not MY tax dollars it's your TEXAS cops. Sounds like the old movies of Kops.

AJ is a trouble maker for you eh? This is your second go round coz of him and his mouth and his friends.
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Message Posted: Mar 30, 2015 8:12:03 AM

Jemac, I have been reading your posts about the leaches living with you. I know it would be hard but if you have had enough you must put your foot down. I could understand (maybe some) if you wanted to do all these things for them but it sounds like you don't. Maybe it is time to sit yourself down, clear your head and decide how you want things to be. Your house, your money, YOUR WAY. Make it clear that you are serious, if they don't follow your wishes they are OUT. The hard part will be that you must follow up with your threats or you will be a prisoner forever. Did you say once that you didn't mind it too much? I can't remember. If so you can continue on but not because you have to but because you want to.

Are we reading too much into this or is it really getting bad?

And Sneakers, who the hell is AJ's BFF's half brother? Is he living with you too?
Sneakers55
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Message Posted: Mar 30, 2015 4:43:23 AM

I think we could be a reality show around here. It might get boring, long stretches of Facebook and GasBuddy. And staying up to the wee small hours of the morning watching Squawk Box Europe on CNBC World.

AJ made a comment about cats being a Chinese delicacy. The BFF's half-brother (who couldn't keep Tommy, only two pets per apartment and he had four) decided to call the police and tell them that AJ was going to skin and barbecue the cats.

We had a visit from the local cops at 11:10 at night. They wanted to take Tommy, but not Tiger. Go figure.

The local cops managed to lose the cat. They said they will come out in the morning. Your tax dollars at work.



[Edited by: Sneakers55 at 3/30/2015 4:49:44 AM EST]
Jemac
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Message Posted: Mar 29, 2015 11:19:24 AM

I even tell them how I learned something special from my mom. It's called manual dish washing of dishes. Instead of leaving them in the sink because the dishwasher is full and clean (and needing putting away), they'll pile the dirty dishes they just used into the sink.

I love them but hate their methods (GD and GD's husband).
trugasCA
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Message Posted: Mar 29, 2015 10:12:41 AM

I know it is so common info that goes right over some heads. OR maybe we are just smarter than the average bear? NAH...I am run of the mill common, but still l know so much more than some people and some of them plan it that way don't you think?
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Message Posted: Mar 29, 2015 10:10:04 AM

Trugasca, you got me laughing when you said: "Some were just born stupid and remain in their ignorance blissfully relying on others." Also when you said" There are all kinds of people here in all shapes of mental conditions."

I think that holds true here ...I still try to get the great son-in-law to understand the physics of a dishwasher. If you want something to get clean you must face it towards the innards of the dishwasher and not facing the side of the dishwasher. Plates don't clean themselves without water or spray.

It's a very simple thing to understand but so far it bypasses his thinking process. Even a glass laying on its side facing the side of the dishwasher.
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Message Posted: Mar 29, 2015 10:05:53 AM

LOL l looked up that site Jemac, then used it to look up side effects of my heart med Atenolol which dr prescribes to stop rapid heart beat, and durn if the side effects aren't the same....Look that up on the same site. List is very similar. eh. 73 side effects. People are different in the way things react in their bodies also. The list is a list of possible not always for everyone.

You might be surprised to look up Tylenol side effects too. They all have them.



[Edited by: trugasCA at 3/29/2015 10:10:34 AM EST]
trugasCA
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Message Posted: Mar 29, 2015 9:57:02 AM

Wackiness l learned of SCAN long before it came to No CA and waited with bated breath, joined it then cancelled when l realized it would cut me out of some program benefits l now receive. My rent would go up and l would lose IHSS.
But l sure like their philosophy. The way they treat elders etc.

yes Jemac l did invite her to my party and she came late and had people jumping to help her. She and l had another go round or two since then. At least l stopped her yelling at me, everytime l stick my nose out the front door.. Told her just wave. But she is so dumb and was telling everyone about my cutting back the common area plants (done on week end so office is closed so not found out) she is so stupid and asks such dumb questions. EG yesterday.. She is on Medi-CAL.. we were discussing our Medicare insurance and she says "Well when does that kick in, l am 68 now and don't get it yet, should l go to social security?"
One of the ladies there and l were talking about her ex passing away and now she should be able to get his full social security and l said YES. She wondered because she married again and l told her that didn't matter. She was married to him 30 years, so she qualifies, and of course dummy asks "can l get my husband's ?" and l asked is he dead ? NO then no you cant. She doesn't really listen to our conversations, just buts in with stupid questions. No matter what one has she asks where you got it, as if she is going to run right out and get it too. Most of my things are 20 years old and l forgotten where l bought them and she isn't going to buy them anyway, just wants the attention brought back to her.
There are all kinds of people here in all shapes of mental conditions. Some like Fearless is border line dementia and some were just born stupid and remain in their ignorance blissfully relying on others. She bought a candle and borrowed matches. Don't you know you need a match to light a candle? She says she is going to garden and she borrows clippers yesterday. So l reminded her she will have to buy tools to garden. She said :Oh l know that. OH yeah. Well l asked her what she was going to plant up in the community garden and she said Roses. Well the plots are assigned each year, so people grow crops that they harvest at years end. l told her then at the end of the year you will have to pull out the roses..OH YEAH? OH ...so dumb.

Jemac l am aware of the side effects of Ibuprophen.. Stomach mainly, but Tylenol doesn't do it for me. I have a bottle of it and use it for some things. Advil is fine for me. I use one pill, 200 ml usually and not daily. It works and after all again l mention l am 84 so ...how much longer do l have? I want to be rid of pain, tho l do not like pain medications, too strong for me, knocks me out.


[Edited by: trugasCA at 3/29/2015 9:58:36 AM EST]
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Message Posted: Mar 29, 2015 1:03:20 AM

Supplemental Insurance called SCAN has been very helpful to me.
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Message Posted: Mar 28, 2015 12:41:05 PM

Trugasca, are these people the same ones that came to your spring Party?

I saw my doctor yesterday and he mentioned I should be taking Tylenol for my back aches. I asked him about Ibuprofen and he said not to use it as it can cause problems with the body. I looked up Ibuprofen and it sure has lots of possible problems. If never using it before, one would be scared to use it. I guess it'll be Tylenol for me.

Ibuprofen Possible Side Effects

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Message Posted: Mar 28, 2015 10:34:51 AM

I told that neighbor who shouts at me everytime l go out to just wave and darned if she didn't do it. YEA. But then we were sitting out front of my place and one lady told of one guy who is really upsetting his neighbor by calling out to her in the middle of the night. Disturbing her sleep etc. And this pesty one says and goes on and on about how a previous neighbor used to call her and l exploded because SHE is like that. I said this is different. It is in the middle of the night when he falls. People that rely so much on their neighbors should be put in a home (Hint hint to her as she cannot do anything for herself). Now her latest medical issue is Neuropathy. She walks and walks to strenghthen her legs and never mentioned Neuropathy before. I think she has a medical book in her place and looks up stuff to come down with. First it was dropped head syndrome, then dizzy, then cut legs shaving from shaking, please come and put on bandages, then weak legs ,bad eyes so read directions for her, then she can't punch the numbers on her phone, (wish that was true) It is something new and different every day. She drones on in such detail that there is no interrupting her but l sure try.

Wish some of my neighbors were just hi and keep walking. But she isn't that type.
Am l enjoying my retirement? Only when l can stay away from the pests. There are too many in a complex of almost 200 units. And they all seem to live near me. LOL

Murder oh yeah l might think about it alright. Like holding her nose and mouth shut. Or helping her bathe and holding her under the water. I am getting some good ideas.

Talk about elder abuse...this is abuse when the dingbats live with us. Punishment for all my errors.
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Message Posted: Mar 28, 2015 6:31:08 AM

On Mar 26, 2015 9:53:43 AM, trugasCA wrote:

>Sneakers KEEP that card. It might come in handy someday. One never knows.

It's not the first time I have had a caseworker from Texas Adult Protective Services visit me. I spent most of the fourth quarter of 2011 in and out of medical facilities. First time I got extremely disoriented. Second time, I had a C.difficile infection (there are apparently no mild C.difficile infections, there are only nasty ones). Third time, they released me and I took a turn for the worse. They had a hospitalist look at me who said "we tried getting you to where oral medications should have worked but they apparently didn't." So, I spent 37 days between a hospital and a nursing home, most of that in isolation. They were trying to reach me but we never got in the same place at the same time.

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Message Posted: Mar 27, 2015 10:53:11 AM

Trugasca, are you reading murder mysteries thinking about some of your neighbors and what your wishes could be? LOL

Thank goodness all my neighbors are great but we never get together other than when fixing their computers. It's always great to say "Hi neighbor" and leave it as that.

The DIL always talks across the fence to them though and their female dog digs a hole under the fence to come across to see our male dog.

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Message Posted: Mar 27, 2015 10:18:21 AM

Stayed in and did housework. Vacuumed, swiffered then steam cleaned floors. Changed bed cleaned up kitchen and put on chuck roast then went to library.
Did sit out with neighbors late in day. Got up to 80's and one lady said it was 90 in her yard, (which has afternoon sun, so thermometer placement ???) it wasn't 90 anywhere else.
Felt like it tho. Previously this lady has commented how damp it is around her place, yet now she is saying how dried out everything is. Don't understand her. She says she has dizzy spells if she sleeps in her bedroom, but when she sleeps in the frontroom, no dizzy spells. Great if that works sleep on the bed used as a couch in the frontroom.

Not her, but another lady starts talking and l just have to get up and leave. She is a needy person and goes on an on about her difficulties and when describing something she goes into minute detail. I get so tired of it and try to get the topic on more pleasant things. I am not too successful. I really just stay away from the group more and more. Much more pleasant just sitting and reading murder mysteries of all things. LOL.
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Message Posted: Mar 26, 2015 10:53:43 AM

I went shopping myself yesterday ans spent over $45 at one store then went to another ansd spent another $25. Stocked up on 4 packs of fruit. like the small sizes of containers. One serving, no waste by getting pushed back in fridge and forgotten til gets cleaned out.

Sneakers KEEP that card. It might come in handy someday. One never knows. The future is unpredictable.

I had a talk with my neighbor who yells at me everytime l stick my nose out the door. I explained to her that it was annoying to be yelled at even in a friendly way. Could she please just wave? At times l am busy doing something when she calls my name and l have to get up and turn around and answer her even several times a day. I understand she is needy and lonely, but l have my own needs and one is to be left alone and not bugged. I am slowly getting her to leave me alone-- l thought. Til she called and left a message that she wants her next door neighbor's phone #. Imagine half a dozen steps to the neighbors and she calls to get her # . That is the type of thing l want to shut down. She got a phone book or can call 411 for info. But she bugs everyone over every little thing. I won't put up with it. Her neighbor on the other side is handicapped and she asks her to shop for her for a pen, or a stamp or whatever and she goes there daily for a coke. She is fed up with her too.

Went to pool yesterday and may go again today as the sun is up and they say it will be warmen. Nice exercise and l need to avail myself of the free pool. Living elsewhere l paid to go to a pool.

Think l will crock pot cook a chuck roast today all day.

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Message Posted: Mar 25, 2015 8:54:16 PM

Got a phone call from Ms. AJ (she has a multisyllabic name) from Texas Adult Protective Services. She commented that I'm getting health care, I've got a roof over my head, and I've got enough income to live on. They are going to close the file, but if things take a turn for the worse I have her business card.

We've got rain in the forecast (40% chance from some sources, 90% chance from others) tomorrow morning. AJ and I are going to stay cocooned (except for a trip to Home Depot), hopefully until after the rain comes through.AJ is planning to finish the walk-in shower in the guest bathroom.
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Message Posted: Mar 25, 2015 9:56:32 AM

I know about how gas can rise so quickly..that is why now l am only looking at and writing down the gas prices on the way HOME. It was going up so fast in Feb, but now has stabilized. Somewhat.

Gotta watch those relatives too, and caregivers and anyone who has access to your accounts and credit cards. Sometimes they don't even need the card, just the # after awhile.

I don't even let my son know my info and l trust him implicitly...just no need for him to know now. The info is in my metal box for him after l die. Then he can close all the accounts. Notify all.

Guess l will go shopping today myself tho l have no needs, except milk. Just looking around where they give 10% discount today.
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Message Posted: Mar 24, 2015 11:41:48 PM

After Adult Protective Services finished up, I got out and bought the groceries that I didn't buy yesterday. Spent $45.18, and it was all nontaxable human food. Went to H-E-B, but I went to a different store with more gas stations on the route. When I came back two hours later, gas prices were higher than they were.
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Message Posted: Mar 24, 2015 11:36:00 PM

On Mar 24, 2015 9:40:15 AM, trugasCA wrote:

>I can certainly understand why the Adult Protective agency is looking
>into your situation. Two unemployed people moving in with and
>depending on an elderly person for their keep is not a common
>thing, and ripe for abuse. Good that they question everything.

The caseworker asked me about my medical problems and then wrote down my medications. Then, she asked who were my doctors and about my medical insurance. Since I served ten years with my former employer with a start date before 1/1/1993, I got medical insurance when I retired.

Then, she asked about the house (I own it free and clear) and my sources of income (pension from a former employer and monthly IRA withdrawals).

She asked me for my date of birth and my Social Security number.

She told me that they don't expect to do anything.
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Message Posted: Mar 24, 2015 1:34:33 PM

Talking about elder abuse ... My brother's ex wife and their sons ripped about $225,000 from my brother. It was only caught after there was only $10,000 left in his account. Nice sons, huh.

It was only found out when I took a trip to NY and was asked to check his accounts for him. The courts got $50,000 back for him along with some land but he still lost out in the steal. Now my siblings watch out for him and his financials. He now can take care of his own financials but still has to be watched as he is a spender when they don't watch him.
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Message Posted: Mar 24, 2015 1:03:33 PM

>"AJ is a pool technician and I'd certainly hope he could recognize a pool heater. He recognized them in the other houses we looked at.">

I expect the pool heater is using electricity also, isn't it? Maybe it's solar, not using electricity?

Once the outside temperatures get to about 20 degrees a heat pump is only 100% efficient, the same efficiency as the resistance heaters. Before I got A/C in my new York home, I insulated it to R60 in ceilings and R40 in the walls. That helped considerably in controlling my heating bills, then my A/C bills.

I have my Florida home NOW insulated to R40 in the ceilings and it has helped tremendously in the home. I couldn't hold the temperature in the summer and it drifted from the set 72 degrees up to 83 degrees. The insulation now keeps it exactly where I set it. If it's at 72, it stays at 72. I now know I can actually set it higher, not having to start so low in the morning, knowing of the previous drift. Now we leave it at 74 degrees.
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Message Posted: Mar 24, 2015 10:40:15 AM

I can certainly understand why the Adult Protective agency is looking into your situation. Two unemployed people moving in with and depending on an elderly person for their keep is not a common thing, and ripe for abuse. Good that they question everything. It happens. Caregivers that take care of buying for elderly people in their care take over and spend all their savings unbeknownst to the person. I understand you are now in full charge of your financial decisions, but it could change if a person was the type to commit fraud. Someone to watch over the situation is good. My sister had physical abuse from her son (she says he slapped her once)and more verbal and the Adult Protective agency stepped in and told him he needed anger management and take time away.

I am happily living on my own and like it that way. Retirement is so far a thing l am enjoying and love my independence.
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Message Posted: Mar 24, 2015 1:54:49 AM

I went grocery shopping at H-E-B last night after dark. I bought $134.83 of food and drink and household supplies. The three of us all pitched in and we got it all in with one trip. The bag-boy asked me if I wanted help out and I took him up on it.

The BFF is planning to make King Ranch Chicken later today. She's also planning to clean up the house. I have a stack of mail that's largely junk mail with useful things in it. It's starting to be spring annual report season. I have AT&T, BBVA, and Boeing so far.
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Message Posted: Mar 23, 2015 8:20:19 PM

On Mar 22, 2015 8:28:02 PM, Jemac wrote:

>Sneakers, are you sure that 3397 wasn't for two months?

I'm sure. Gexa Energy has sent me a bill every month for as long as I've been with them. It was cold down here last month.

>That's double what my total electric house took last month and I'm running
>A/C all the time and not heat. Running the A/C is more costly than running
>the heat. My A/C unit is from year 2000. I've got about a 2000 sq foot house
>that sucks up the electric with the living room cathedral ceiling.

My house is 2010 square feet and we've got two of the bedrooms used only for storage. AJ turned off the vents in the rooms.

>Resistance heating is 100% efficient (if duct work isn't ripped) but is
>more expensive than natural gas or oil.

A heat pump, on the other hand, is about 400% efficient.

>3397 KW is a lot of KW for a month and maybe it is to heat the pool
>in addition to the house....

AJ is a pool technician and I'd certainly hope he could recognize a pool heater. He recognized them in the other houses we looked at.

[Edited by: Sneakers55 at 3/23/2015 8:20:59 PM EST]
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On Mar 22, 2015 11:27:04 AM, trugasCA wrote:

>Sneakers that police was checking you out to see if you had all your faculties.
>Nice that someone cares enough to try to protect you, as there is a whole lot
>of elder abuse in many forms.

Lots of questions, and I'm going to have more tomorrow. Texas Adult Protective Services is coming out to evaluate my situation.

I realized a couple of things I didn't tell the officer who visited Saturday. They asked if I had any medical problems and I forgot to mention sleep apnea. He seemed to be mostly interested about my bipolar affective disorder and that I was getting my meds. I have people say "you don't have bipolar disorder" but then they haven't seen me without my meds. They also asked if AJ had bought any computers or TV sets and I said no computers and the TV set in the living room; he had my OK to buy the TV set in the living room. He also bought a small TV set for the master bedroom, he had my OK to buy that one too. Didn't cost much in the first place.
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Message Posted: Mar 23, 2015 8:03:06 PM

Trugas, we weren't that bad with the aches, etc. He's got a 10's unit that gives an electrical pulse for back pain. He was demonstrating it on my arm to see what it does.

It was a good time for all of us.
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Message Posted: Mar 23, 2015 6:04:06 PM

Jemac l am guilty of talking of aches and pains too. It is new to me this aging thing, and l learn from others and they hopefully learn from my experiences. Sharing is fine, but appropriate in some places like your own home not on cruises and such. At least not the entire dinner conversation. I ate the rest of my meals in my cabin. Sometimes ordered 2 meals and picked out the things l liked and left the rest. LOL
I have a joke about old people... "Living dangerously if you say to an old person...How are you?" They probably will tell you.

The sun is shining and looks so pretty out but it is Fireman's fright a daily occurance here. The wind is whistling thru my door. I did laundry at the wash house earlier and it wasn't bad. The machines are so noisy, l step out in to the sun and wait til the noisy spin cycle is over. It is now 62 degrees but the wind chill factor....

I got so much good news in the mail saturday that l doubt l will receive anything today, but l will go up to check in a bit and visit with whomever l run into.
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Message Posted: Mar 22, 2015 9:33:33 PM

Trugasca, I know what you mean about talking about aches and pains when in a group. I visited my NY cousin that's staying here in Fla for 4 months today and we did talk about our aches and pains that have occurred now that we are ancient people.

Both of us can't walk far, we can't bend over without aching pain when going straight again, etc, and etc. Those golden years are just thin plating's and are broken easily when abused.

My cousin, his wife, and I had a great time and will miss them when they leave the 14th of April. We have continuous talk without having smart phones nearby.
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Message Posted: Mar 22, 2015 9:28:02 PM

Sneakers, are you sure that 3397 wasn't for two months? That's double what my total electric house took last month and I'm running A/C all the time and not heat. Running the A/C is more costly than running the heat. My A/C unit is from year 2000. I've got about a 2000 sq foot house that sucks up the electric with the living room cathedral ceiling.

Resistance heating is 100% efficient (if duct work isn't ripped) but is more expensive than natural gas or oil. 3397 KW is a lot of KW for a month and maybe it is to heat the pool in addition to the house....if not the cost of two month's bill.
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Message Posted: Mar 22, 2015 12:27:04 PM

I understood 2many, but still missed you. I sure agree about Montana. I fell in love with the rolling green hills too. The open spaces. But for me it would remain a dream. Too old now to travel those open spaces. So just memories. Nice to hear from you, that all is going well, that you will be going back to your beloved Montana soon. That's the way to spend Retirement IMO.

Jemac,Laugh at the comment, not at you, about older people being more conversational. We talk an awful lot about our ills and pain and stuff. Even the table l was assigned to on a cruise. Where people should have their minds on fun, they compared mostly thier surgeries.
l try to pull people out of and onto happy things to talk about. We also repeat our stories over and over and over and over again. Some of us anyway. But l do run into an interesting conversation at times and you are right about those durn phones. I see a couple walking and one ignoring the one they are with by talking for blocks on the phone. Or even in restaurants.
I call people on cells and never know where they are anymore. I hate that.I called a neighbor to invite her to the dinner and she said "well l am not home, l am in Missouri".
I call someone to talk about something here and they are out shopping or somewhere that makes no sense to answer phone then.

Sneakers that police was checking you out to see if you had all your faculties. Nice that someone cares enough to try to protect you, as there is a whole lot of elder abuse in many forms.



[Edited by: trugasCA at 3/22/2015 12:31:20 PM EST]
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Message Posted: Mar 22, 2015 8:04:05 AM

I was looking back at the posts and see that you missed me trugas. Sorry. Boy, did the winter go fast. That stint at the VA sure made time fly. I am done with that for now and have been busy catching up on my projects at home. I expect to get called back to my paying job soon. Next week I have to go to the other marsh to cut more wood and then I plan on going to Montana the week after Easter to help the rancher with some chores. Actually I am in Montana, in my heart, every day. I daydream about the cows, the rolling hills, the breaks, the meadowlarks and the wide open spaces. Not sure if I could live the life of a rancher but sure do like visiting. We have had some nice spring weather here but are expecting another winter blast tonight.

Everyone have a nice day.
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Message Posted: Mar 21, 2015 7:30:17 PM

Trugasca, Glad your party turned out great. You were a great host and I'm sure all will be talking about it for the next year.

Around here, everyone would have had their personal smart phones out checking their email or texts and not being in any conversations....at least, the DIL's family and friends. I can't stand it!

Older people are much more conversational.
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Message Posted: Mar 21, 2015 7:24:12 PM

The BFF's half-brother's girlfriend apparently thought I was being abused and she called the cops. So, I got a welfare check from the local police. I did tell the officer that AJ did have some of my credit cards but he used them for stuff for the house and coffee. He did ask if he bought any computers or TV sets and I told them that he bought the TV in the living room with my OK. He asked me how I ended up in Texas and I said "Space Station." We discussed a lot of things. I commented that I donate platelets every two weeks unless something is messed up like happened last time. He then asked "what happened last time?" I explained platelet donation: they run your blood through a centrifuge and filter out the platelets, then they send everything else back. That day, it wouldn't flow back.

It's raining here today. The weather people from FOX 26 estimated that we got 3"-4" of rain today. So, I've stayed in.

I got a half-dozen E-statements today. The bad thing is the electric bill. My house has resistance heating, it works good but it's inefficient. I used 3397 kWh for the last month. We're starting to get into air conditioning season around here, turned it on for the first time yesterday. The air conditioning is a 2008 model. Don't know how efficient it is.
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Message Posted: Mar 21, 2015 9:16:37 AM

Jemac l loved doing the party and the hardest part was cutting the chicken and the cement floors made my feet sore. Forgot all that when people enjoyed the food and full of compliments. I am not and never have been a party person. Seldom gave them and even then it was for the kids. Didn't even do them well. But l do love food, love to cook and feed people. So the food indoors and in an L shape and out the door to sit in a big circle out side worked well. Only one use a TV tray so we had plenty of room. I had a garbage can out there and after people were nearly finished with all the BBQ sauce on their fingers l passed around wet wipes and then collected silverware (which all appreciated instead of plastic) and passed out Ghiradelli caramel filled chocolate squares. They got a kick out of that. Saying l was really organized, even after dinner candies.
It was much cooler, cloudy so we didn't need shade. But we all wore sweaters or jackets and it was comfortable for about an hour then l got cold and came inside to wash up. In and out til they finally hugged and left. I was happy with it and they all seemed to be full and content.

Sneakers l saw a shower bench online for $22 plus tax and shipping and the one l was given was billed to medicare for $60. Shame.

[Edited by: trugasCA at 3/21/2015 9:19:14 AM EST]
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Message Posted: Mar 20, 2015 11:32:28 PM

AJ needed some parts for the pool cleaner and he was going to send me out to get them. The only thing is he got out first and got them himself. He needed s universal wall fitting and bought one for $40. He also needed a backup valve but he knew that $90 was too expensive and he should try elsewhere.

I decided to get on amazon.com and see what they had. The universal wall fitting was $12.74 and the backup valve was $46.84! I told him that it was good that I didn't make it to a pool supplies place first, I would have figured $90 was the going price for a backup valve and I would have bought it.

AJ and the BFF's on-again, off-again relationship is off again. He's trying to give Rocky back to the BFF but the BFF says Rocky is my dog.
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Message Posted: Mar 20, 2015 12:01:10 PM

Trugas, wow, you sure are a doer!! A nice spring party for everyone. Sounds like your group and housing is such a joy for everyone.

We get along great with all our neighbors also but we don't party. They are the greatest though.
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