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Saab93turbo

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Message Posted: Feb 19, 2013 4:31:20 PM

How do you respond to people asking for money at the gas station?

Refuse? Give them money?

Recently, one woman asked me for money saying that she ran out of gas. Her big SUV was at the pump so I presume it still has a little gas in it. She seemed like a character to be suspicious of so I declined.

Once someone asked for a loan and said they would paypal me. I accepted their plea and they did paypal me the money back.
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Camry05
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Message Posted: Sep 26, 2013 10:58:53 PM

no cash on me sorry
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dfp609
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Message Posted: Sep 26, 2013 9:30:30 PM

I would tell them that I don't have any cash
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TomB2
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Message Posted: Sep 26, 2013 3:28:09 PM

I tell them I don't have any extra cash.
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Dolfankai
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Message Posted: Sep 26, 2013 3:01:02 PM

I won't do it again. I had a guy walk up to me asking for money to put gas in a moped. I smelled a rat but I decided to give him a chance. I told him that I will go in and pay for a couple dollars for him. When I got inside they told me that he's been out there all day doing that. So if there are people out there who really need help, he just messed it up for them. It's sad.

[Edited by: Dolfankai at 9/26/2013 3:03:23 PM EST]
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Philo_Gray
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Message Posted: Sep 4, 2013 2:04:30 PM

What makes me sad is not that they are their. It is that their are more and more of them. Moving from the cities to more and more suburbs.

I did help someone with 2 gal of gas once but they paid me cash. It was at night and the card reader was not working and they did not have enough gas to get home. (I was once in the same situation.) I am willing to help when I can, but I would rather give out a fishing pole then a fish.
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Houckster
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Message Posted: Sep 4, 2013 11:09:01 AM

HEMOND writes: Agree, no legitimate gun owner would ever do such a thing. That is some kind of leftist/liberal attempt at creating a fantasy image of yahoo gun owners. The only ones who would display a firearm like that would be 'bros in the hood, street thugs, or wannabe drug dealers. IOW criminals who shouldn't have a gun by law.

A true gun owner, especially those who carry (concealed or open) are not going to brandish it like a toy.
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A legitimate gun owner is one who has complied with the steps specified in law to obtain a gun. That doesn't mean that the person will always act correctly but they are still legitimate gun owners at the time of the crime and remain so unless the state decides to strip them of their privilege. Legitimate gun owners can break the law and can be charged for doing so. Just like legitimate drivers with a license.

If we accept HEMOND's definition, no legitimate gun owner has ever committed a crime because by committing a crime, the person is no longer legitimate. Unfortunately a lot of gun owners believe this fallacy. And, of course, anyone who rejects this silliness is part of a leftist/liberal attempt plot to take everyone's gun away.
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Houckster
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Message Posted: Sep 4, 2013 10:52:28 AM

MERTIEMAN writes: These people are like the other panhandlers on the street, looking for a free hand out and will not work for anything. Flat out, tell them NO! My wife has some members of her family like this, and they are now told NO.
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Yes, there are some panhandlers who won't work but in this economy, there are a lot of truly desperate people who have little or no chance of finding a job. Grouping everyone who is needy into one class shows a lack of judgment.
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MertieMan
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Message Posted: Sep 4, 2013 9:36:18 AM

These people are like the other panhandlers on the street, looking for a free hand out and will not work for anything. Flat out, tell them NO! My wife has some members of her family like this, and they are now told NO.
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bluenvoy
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Message Posted: Sep 4, 2013 9:20:46 AM

I politely say no.
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Thumper52
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Message Posted: Sep 4, 2013 5:39:02 AM

I don't give money to anyone I don't know.
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EvPv
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Message Posted: Sep 2, 2013 5:11:00 PM

I bust my ass to hard to give it to a stranger for nothing. Going to get checked out for heart issue next week. Not to see if I have one, but to find out if I push it beyond the limits.
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Hemond
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Message Posted: Sep 2, 2013 4:50:19 PM

::::To those few who think it's funny to say you would display a firearm, would go to jail for such an act, known at the very least as brandishing.:::

Agree, no legitimate gun owner would ever do such a thing. That is some kind of leftist/liberal attempt at creating a fantasy image of yahoo gun owners. The only ones who would display a firearm like that would be 'bros in the hood, street thugs, or wannabe drug dealers. IOW criminals who shouldn't have a gun by law.

A true gun owner, especially those who carry (concealed or open) are not going to brandish it like a toy.
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CptSteve
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Message Posted: Sep 2, 2013 2:53:46 PM

Never been asked.
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twt
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Message Posted: Sep 2, 2013 11:05:27 AM

I just say no.
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TheJediCharles
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Message Posted: Sep 2, 2013 10:35:49 AM

I refuse to encourage panhandling by rewarding it. I feel a responsibility to my fellow man, but that includes those of us who must live here in peace without pity-beggers at every corner dragging down the quality of living. "They" count on us to in our moment of weakness to take a stand for society.
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gus8441
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Message Posted: Aug 21, 2013 1:48:37 PM

i pay with a card
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Jawbonz
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Message Posted: Aug 21, 2013 1:40:05 PM

To those few who think it's funny to say you would display a firearm, would go to jail for such an act, known at the very least as brandishing. No violent felony has been committed at that point, to warrant the threat, or use, of deadly force. Good luck at your trial. It's really not funny to joke around like that, and it really lends strength to the fact that those who talk like that, shouldn't be carrying a firearm anyway.

To those who ask if they have change for a $100? You're asking to become a robbery victim at that point, as it implies you have a lot of what they want. Money.
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asizzle80
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Message Posted: Aug 18, 2013 12:56:23 PM

I never have cash.
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morrongiello
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Message Posted: Aug 18, 2013 11:25:39 AM

Never happened to me
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BartandLisa
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Message Posted: Aug 18, 2013 11:11:46 AM

Has never happened to me
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Dennis783
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Message Posted: Aug 5, 2013 7:39:38 AM

just say no
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rjb34747
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Message Posted: Aug 5, 2013 7:27:09 AM

No
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OilerFan
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Message Posted: Aug 5, 2013 7:25:52 AM

I just tell them no.
I don't feel pressured to give money anymore.
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contiki
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Message Posted: Aug 5, 2013 7:01:54 AM

GSDMan sad story and thanks for sharing it with us so we can understand some situations........
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GSDMan
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Message Posted: Aug 5, 2013 6:52:11 AM

I used to have a pretty hard heart when it came to stuff like this. But, ten years ago, give or take, I was working in a gas station. A car appeared on the property that looked abandoned so we had it towed away a day or two later. Shortly after that, a panhandler that had been hanging out in the area came in and said that was his home and he needed his medication, blah blah blah, and we told him to get lost. Well, his body was found two days later in the bushes next door. Dead from diabetic shock and, sure enough, he had insulin in a cooler in the car. So I take these requests on a case by case basis now and try to er on the side of generosity.
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cv
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Message Posted: Aug 5, 2013 6:09:35 AM

Sorry, I can't help you.
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nichols
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Message Posted: Aug 4, 2013 10:39:25 AM

ignore
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darwinfinch
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Message Posted: Jul 29, 2013 12:39:03 PM

Happens in Arizona, New Mexico, Texas and Nevada all the time. Never anywhere else have I had this happen.

One guy was selling used DVDs with a Blockbuster rental sticker on them.

Some people drive around all day with a dozen different scams.
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alphanyr
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Message Posted: Jul 29, 2013 12:37:01 PM

NO
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Philo_Gray
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Message Posted: Jul 29, 2013 12:35:20 PM

I ask another person once when I stopped after closing to put a gallon or to in my tank. I had the cash but the station was closed with only pay at the pump and I did not have my Credit Card with me. The guy said sure and did not take my cash. I would do the same for someone who needed enough gas to get home. I would help my fellow man.
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skydone7
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Message Posted: Jul 29, 2013 12:33:08 PM

With a stern NO!
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smugutu1234
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Message Posted: Jul 29, 2013 11:43:13 AM

I don't carry cash.
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RedWings44
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Message Posted: Jul 29, 2013 11:23:19 AM

Never had that happen but I suppose it would depend on many things like the person and maybe even the time of day...or whether or not I even have money to spare. But why would you let your gas even come close to that in the first place?
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MplsMickey
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Message Posted: Jul 29, 2013 11:21:17 AM

I take their crazy story (they're travelling from somewhere far off with a pregnant wife, etc. etc.) and try to one-up it.
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forresj
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Message Posted: Jul 29, 2013 10:08:13 AM

If someone asks me, I'll ask to look at their driver's licence and vehicle registration card to make sure it's not a scam. If they get offended, then I walk away.

I don't carry cash anyways.

[Edited by: forresj at 7/29/2013 10:09:46 AM EST]
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shstew
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Message Posted: Jul 29, 2013 9:07:36 AM

It never happens to me.
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gasgzzlr13
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Message Posted: Jul 29, 2013 9:04:37 AM

Depends how I feel I guess. Once I gave this teen 5bucks when I was coming out of a Shopper's, then a few hours later I was walking into Target when the same kid approached me before he said anything I said You got some money you can lend me. He didn't know what to say.
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NorthByNw
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Message Posted: Jul 29, 2013 8:51:29 AM

As far as I know it does not happen above the border
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DAWGnh
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Message Posted: Jul 29, 2013 1:35:11 AM

You have change for a $100
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taxed2death
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Message Posted: Jul 29, 2013 1:19:55 AM

i am nice to them, but i cry the blues and tell them i am laid off and i cant even support my however many # of kids, or some thing like that. i never want them to get hostile because i drive a new vehicle, I feel its the first impression thing and some people are jealous.
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duybn
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Message Posted: Jul 29, 2013 1:02:04 AM

it gets to a point that if you are asking..you are fail. no more.
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MertieMan
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Message Posted: Jul 29, 2013 12:20:12 AM

Ignore these panhandlers. Most are welfare bums who wouldn't work if their lives depended on it.
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Barthasgas
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Message Posted: Jul 28, 2013 10:11:58 PM

Recently I've caved in to two people. Next time I'm going to tell them that I don't have any cash that I can spare.
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lwood655
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Message Posted: Jul 28, 2013 11:07:20 AM

don't have cash
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giwan
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Message Posted: Jul 27, 2013 8:17:20 PM

stand your ground
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forestghost07
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Message Posted: Jul 27, 2013 8:15:43 PM

I just start jabbering at them in Italian or French haha. Multi-lingual has its perks! :-P
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Hemond
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Message Posted: Jul 27, 2013 2:08:34 PM

Happens to me all the time. And not just in a gas station. Wherever I'm parked. I've been approached while putting coins in the parking meter, at the supermarket while loading my car, in Dunkin Donuts lot while enjoying my brew.

Its always the same story. They ran out of gas and live 50 miles away. I had one guy approach me in a suit and tie. Another time a black woman approached me with a gas can. A variant is they are stranded and need a couple of dollars for the bus back home. I had one last night. He said he was an army vet getting treatment at the VA up the street. Ran out of gas in the hospital lot.

The best one was the the 20 something dude with a Mercedes parked at the gas pump. He was dressed California surf casual. He went around to each motorist and begged money to put gas in his Mercedes.
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grim_farva
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Message Posted: Jul 27, 2013 12:36:27 PM

ignore or tell them no
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nichols
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Message Posted: Jul 27, 2013 12:17:21 PM

ignore
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bluenvoy
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Message Posted: Jul 11, 2013 10:11:13 AM

Don't have cash.
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