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albiek1976

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Message Posted: Jul 16, 2013 1:19:40 AM

How do I find local fellow gas watchers in my local area then request them to be added to my buddy list?
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SUVFan
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Message Posted: Jul 19, 2013 1:28:59 PM

Regarding the opt in/opt out discussion, I didn't mean to suggest that anyone would be "in" without their consent. That should be required. But once "in", they should be able to get out of any group they want out of. It would work the way the existing buddy system does. An invitation goes out. If accepted, a connection is available. If no longer desired, a click makes it go away.

I would go a step further and make it available only if members are already buddies. That way, those posting that they don't like it wouldn't see it at all.

A good example is the "Gas Buddy Gathering" thread in our local forum. When I joined, they were using it to RSVP to monthly meetings of GBs. I never attended one, as I'm not willing to lose the anonymity the site provides. I suggested many times that they should take the reservations off site to facebook.

About a year ago, they finally stopped organizing it in the thread. Now they just say they are organizing this month's gathering and sometimes report that a good time was had by all. Doing this via the site's existing pm function would be pretty annoying. But it would be helpful if the site's pm function allowed a mass message to go out to all that were invited and had subscribed to a "Gathering" group. Can they do it on another site? Certainly. But it seems to me the site would be better if we could do that without leaving.
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TxJeans
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Message Posted: Jul 19, 2013 7:05:19 AM

Scrapheap wrote "If you have one buddy who can send you a message, your GasBuddy inbox IS yet another email account."

Yes, and no. It is not set up in a very user friendly manner to be considered "email" -- it is PM - Private Messaging. I have no problem with it remaining a single contact form of messaging, though there have been a few times I might have wanted to contact more than one person. I still see no need for "gang" messaging. I can see where it might be abused based on the buddy requests where some folks collect them just to collect them. I see and know several folks that would likely abuse this feature and the mods have a hard time keeping up with what is on their mod plate as it is...

IF they would allow more than one name in the to line on the PM by general users, I think it should have a restricted number for the to line.

Again, I am glad a "gang" messaging idea has languished.

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Scrapheap
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Message Posted: Jul 19, 2013 2:30:41 AM

kwzh wrote > I don't *want* my GasBuddy inbox to be yet another email account; I have enough of those already.

If you have one buddy who can send you a message, your GasBuddy inbox IS yet another email account.

[Edited by: Scrapheap at 7/19/2013 2:35:08 AM EST]
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kwzh
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Message Posted: Jul 19, 2013 12:18:57 AM

CK writes,
> Anyone who does that against another member's wishes can simply be blocked

No -- that solution doesn't scale well.

My answer is that if you want to "gang message" some people, then ask them for their email addresses, or use the forum. I don't *want* my GasBuddy inbox to be yet another email account; I have enough of those already.
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bytebug
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Message Posted: Jul 18, 2013 10:10:40 PM

>> I say there would be no problem with gang messaging at all. None. Zip. Bupkis.

A number of members have been banned for this non-problem.
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Gas_Buddy
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Message Posted: Jul 18, 2013 9:27:17 PM

I don't know that having a "gang message" has more value than simply starting a local topic unless there was a reason to keep the information away from others in a local area discussion category. Just because there are other venues that have "gang messaging" doesn't mean that there needs to be one on Gas Buddy (but that's in line with my believing that Gas Buddy doesn't need to be the consummate social network that others think it could/should be).

And, that said, calling gang messaging spam doesn't (necessarily) mean that all spam is bad, but the way CampKohler used the phrase "gang messaging" in his July 16 8:46:59 seems to meet the definition of spam in that spam is "bulk messaging" and more so by his definition of "...collecting the nicknames of everyone posting prices or messages."

As TxJeans noted, any such "gang posting" grouping, should that be available and allowed should be opt in, not opt out. The burden shouldn't be that a member gets "gang posted" and has to tell others to exclude him/her, the burden should be on the "gang poster" to obtain the concurrent of inclusion. In my opinion. To simply be allow a fellow member to "gang post" everyone sounds like spam in the "junk mail" manner/"junk mail" definition of the word. It would be one thing for Gas Buddy management/moderators to "gang post" its membership (it's their website we've asked to be part of); it's another thing entirely to have a random member-at-large be able to "gang post" others without their asking for inclusion.

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TxJeans
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Message Posted: Jul 18, 2013 8:49:29 PM

Ah, but SUVfan, he suggested "watching and collecting" screen names. That sounds like spammers.

Yes, group mails can be useful, but I don't think it is a big deal not having them in the bigger scope of things.

Local forums are under-used and could be useful for a lot of Local Area stuff and is an appropriate place for the OP to start.

You shouldn't have to OPT OUT, only OPT IN.
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SUVFan
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Message Posted: Jul 18, 2013 1:46:24 PM

TxJeans, I understood CK's thought regarding a gang message is more along the lines of a group of willing participants. Obviously it could be abused, but with an opt in, it would work fine. I'm thinking of something like Yahoo! Groups.

I don't see it as a suggestion that is going anywhere, and I'd guess CK doesn't either. There have been plenty of other great suggestions that would seem easier to implement that have gone nowhere.

I think being able to designate on your profile an area of primary focus would be very useful, as long as it's optional, like all the other profile entries. If it was available and groups were formed as CK indicated, anyone could opt out by removing their info. I don't see any problem with that.

[Edited by: SUVFan at 7/18/2013 1:46:58 PM EST]
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TxJeans
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Message Posted: Jul 17, 2013 8:18:48 PM

CK - You had suggested "If there were a way to "gang message" everyone on a list, it would be worthwhile watching for and collecting the nicknames of everyone posting prices or messages and creating a list that could be sorted."
That is indeed spam. Collecting off a website folks screen names and messaging them as a group.

"I suggested once upon a time that there be a location field in the member profile to be used to record a nearby (as near or far as one wants) major intersection. This would allow grouping members by areas without disclosing exact locations. But it languished..."

And, that is one idea that I am glad "languished".

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CampKohler
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Message Posted: Jul 17, 2013 1:36:49 PM

It's not spam unless it's spam. Say you have a group of like-minded GBs that get together from time to time for one purpose or another and you wish to msg them all. You can do that with E-mail, so you should be able to do that with PMs. Anyone who does that against another member's wishes can simply be blocked, so I say there would be no problem with gang messaging at all. None. Zip. Bupkis.
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Gas_Buddy
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Message Posted: Jul 16, 2013 9:57:16 PM

Another word for "gang messaging" is "spam". If you're going to ask a fellow Gas Buddy member to be your "buddy", then you should be willing to make a little effort to reach out individually, rather than "gang message" everyone in Sacramento, for example, with a message saying, "Hey, I'm new. Be my buddy."

albiek1976:
To answer the original question, paraphrasing the comments of others, simply do a search for gas prices for your local area (for example, Dayton and Cleveland, or wherever) and see who posted prices for stations in your local area or who took part in the local (in your case, Ohio) discussion category, and then click on their screen name, and then send them a buddy request.

Alternatively, you could start a local discussion category topic titled "Gas Buddy member looking for fellow members to be added to my Buddy list", and then in your first post explain where you're from and that you would like other members from your local area to be your "buddy". That said, I, for one, would not respond to such a buddy request nor would I respond to a "gang message". I think that most members prefer to be buddies with people they "meet" in the various discussion topics, rather than simply "friending" someone they don't know (as they might do on Facebook), for the simple reason that most members (in my opinion) prefer to be "buddies" with a member they have something in common with, not just "Hey! We're both from Cincinnati..." Just my opinion.
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CampKohler
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Message Posted: Jul 16, 2013 8:46:59 PM

If there were a way to "gang message" everyone on a list, it would be worthwhile watching for and collecting the nicknames of everyone posting prices or messages and creating a list that could be sorted.

I suggested once upon a time that there be a location field in the member profile to be used to record a nearby (as near or far as one wants) major intersection. This would allow grouping members by areas without disclosing exact locations. But it languished....

[Edited by: CampKohler at 7/16/2013 8:47:26 PM EST]
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SUVFan
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Message Posted: Jul 16, 2013 12:16:11 PM

You can set up one or more saved searches to locate folks who frequently post prices in areas of interest to you by selecting "all" stations but only choosing localities near you.

You could also post a message on the Ohio message board asking if anyone is from your local area?

Once you ID folks from your area, you can search for messages they have posted, either as topics or responses, to find out a little more about them before submitting the buddy request.
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CookieAcct
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Message Posted: Jul 16, 2013 8:34:02 AM


If you click on any members name in a price or message post it will open that member's profile page. Under the member's picture there is a link to invite the member to be your buddy. It is then up to them to accept or reject the request. Posting a message to the other member's whiteboard is sometime a good idea to explain why you want to be buddies.
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kwzh
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Message Posted: Jul 16, 2013 6:13:04 AM

Probably by posting a message to your local discussion board, and specifying your general location. (This is easier for those of us at metro sites rather than state sites.)
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