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ladyravenrock

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Message Posted: May 17, 2013 11:47:57 AM

I don't understand the purpose of buddy lists and how this is different from posting on someone's whiteboard. I've gotten several buddy requests but as a rule I don't accept most social media requests since it's one more thing to have to check on each day.
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Gas_Buddy
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Message Posted: May 18, 2013 5:03:39 PM

CampKohler:

"Supposedly the buddy list is a way to regulate the flow of Personal Messages to you; if you don't accept someone as a buddy, they can't PM you. It strikes me as silly that you save having to delete unwanted PMs, but then have the bother of the buddy process (both requesting and granting)."

On the contrary. The buddy list is a way to have discrete communication with select members, whereas the the white board enables members to communicate with other members in a non-discrete (i.e., open to the public) forum. The white board enables members to communicate without the constraints of discussion topics (i.e., forums) but without privacy.

For example, using the white board you or I could comment to Scrapheap or scoutmaster (for example) on an interesting comment or point of view made in the discussions, something that the might see quicker than if we commented in the discussion thread itself, but we would use the Buddy List (i.e., the personal messaging) to say to Scrapheap or scoutmaster that you though I or I though you were out of line in your comment or you were nuts.

The buddy list (i.e., personal messaging) would enable us to say what we want without the general membership knowing about let alone taking part in the discussion.

As for limiting who becomes your buddy, it's just a matter that you might not (in your case you're saying you don't care) want to give any and everyone the ability to talk in private with you; you might want to limit that so the "buddy list mailbox" doesn't become inundated with messages from people you don't really want to spend time talking to outside the discussion forums. You might, for example, want to talk with me "off-line" about an issue, therefore you give me buddy list rights, but then after the issue is no longer relevant, you might want to drop me from your list; it's just a matter of perspective and manageability so I don't flood your inbox with inane comments and postings, but you would be (could be) less concerned about white board postings.

That's how I see the difference between the two.
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CampKohler
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Message Posted: May 18, 2013 4:38:13 PM

Supposedly the buddy list is a way to regulate the flow of Personal Messages to you; if you don't accept someone as a buddy, they can't PM you. It strikes me as silly that you save having to delete unwanted PMs, but then have the bother of the buddy process (both requesting and granting).

I deal with it simply: if someone sends me a request, I grant it. So far nothing untoward has happened as a result, which only proves that it is a tempest in a teapot. I have used other forums with PMs that have no permission-granting mechanism like the buddy list and have never had a problem. Some people just run "skeert" I guess.

PMs can be used by those members with less than 10K points, whereas whiteboards can't. The privacy of PMs can be an advantage for those who wish to pass E-mail addresses, etc. between themselves.
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kwzh
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Message Posted: May 17, 2013 11:55:09 PM

It's not something you'd have to actively check each day, because if you ever get a private message from a buddy, it'll show up as a notification.
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Gas_Buddy
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Message Posted: May 17, 2013 7:54:50 PM

Scrapheap said it completely and succinctly.

Said in a slightly different way, posting on a white board is like posting your comments in the discussion threads, or on a billboard where they can be seen by any/every other Gas Buddy member that chooses to look at your member profile. Buddy lists are like your e-mail or Google Chat in that you're communicating with the other member directly and without others being able to see what you and your "buddy" are saying to each other.

As for accepting buddy requests, there are any number of Gas Buddy members who (seemingly) randomly ask others to be buddies, either people seen post in a discussion thread, someone who posts gas prices in their area, or a member who reached a significant "icon/point" level. Still others seem to come out of nowhere. If you want to be a buddy with someone, and it's just my opinion, accept buddies who are in various discussion threads you're in (preferably the more substantive discussions, rather than the Just For Fun discussions), someone you think that you might want to talk back and forth with, off-line. There is no obligation to accept a buddy request just because someone want to "be your friend".
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ziyulu
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Message Posted: May 17, 2013 5:43:16 PM

It's just like your Facebook friend list.
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scoutmaster
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Message Posted: May 17, 2013 1:07:50 PM

You can PM someone one your buddy list. You can also restrict who can write on your whiteboard by only your buddy list.
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Scrapheap
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Message Posted: May 17, 2013 11:51:11 AM

Buddies can send you things privately. The whiteboards are public.
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